Success Mantra#14-Turn everything into positive

Hello Friends,

I am putting up before you few things straight. I would like you to learn from real-world situations.

Many of you have attended events about MPSC and UPSC exams. Many of you have sought guidance from others, regarding these exams. Right?

Have you noticed something? Take a look at this: “Nothing is possible without hard work and dedication.”

Have you heard this in any of those events or from the people whom you have sought guidance?

Please re-read this again and again and try to understand what advice it gives you: “Nothing is possible without hard work and dedication.”

Well, it conveys the message that without doing any hard work and without dedication nothing is possible. Right?

My dear friend, do you understand that if you accept it as a “truth”, as a “fact” then actually it is trying to engrave “negativity” on your mind, permanently!!!

In my view, it should be something like this: “Everything is possible with hard work and dedication.”

You got it now?

Yes, it says, you can achieve everything with your hard work and dedication. It results in development of a positive attitude. It builds up your confidence, without you even knowing it.

Likewise, you should always watch what you say to yourself and others regarding your exam preparation. Many of you might have been saying some of these sentences:

1. “I am doing my level best. Fingers crossed.”
2. “I am trying hard to study, let’s see.”
3. “I will try to clear MPSC this time.”
4. “If I do not clear this time, I will try again.”
5. “Am not sure about clearing MPSC, but I will make a serious attempt.”
6. “I have completed the entire syllabus but don’t know what will happen.”
7. “Am confident about clearing this time but can’t say.”
8. “There is too much competition for MPSC/UPSC but let’s try.”
9. “I will do better this time but its about luck after all.”

If you take a closure look at the sentences above, you will notice a bit of negativity in them. Some of these sentences are factual but they have negativity, too.

Let’s analyse each of these sentences.

Sentence#1: “I am doing my level best, fingers crossed.“:

Analysis: “Fingers crossed” in the sentence depicts unsurity of the success even after one is doing one’s level best to succeed.

Advice: Never use negativity in sentences. This sentence should have been like this: “I am doing my level best and am confident of my success in the exam”.

Sentence#2: “I am trying hard to study, let’s see.”

Analysis: In the above sentence, use of the “trying” word displays that the person is trying to study as if he/she is not able to do it. “let’s see” shows negativity (unsure of the completion of study or outcome of the result).

Advice: Never use “try” word in sentence. This sentence should have been like this: “I am studying well and I am sure of the positive result”.

Sentence#3: “I will try to clear MPSC this time.”

Analysis: In the above sentence, use of the “try” word displays that the person is not sure whether he/she can clear the exam in this attempt.

Advice: Never use “try” word in sentence. This sentence should have been like this: “I am sure that I will clear MPSC this time”.

Sentence#4: “If I do not clear this time, I will try again.”

Analysis: The above sentence is completely negative as if he/she has already accepted the failure (this time) and will keep trying next time (when will come the “next” time?).

Advice: Never use negativity in any of your sentences. This sentence should have been like this: “I am confident about clearing MPSC this time”.

Sentence#5: “Am not sure about clearing MPSC, but I will make a serious attempt.”

Analysis: The first part of the above sentence itself conveys that he/she has partially accepted the failure.

Advice: Never use negative words like “not” and “but” in any of your sentences. This sentence should have been like this: “I am sure about clearing MPSC as I am preparing whole-heartedly for this exam”.

Sentence#6: “I have completed the entire syllabus but don’t know what will happen.”

Analysis: The above sentence displays uncertainty of the result.

Advice: Never use negative words like “don’t know”, etc. in any of your sentences. This sentence should have been like this: “I will definitely clear MPSC as I have already completed entire syllabus”.

Sentence#7: “Am confident about clearing this time but can’t say.”

Analysis: He/she is confident about the positive result of the exam then the last part of the sentence overpowers the confidence and reduces it as if he/she has partially accepted the failure.

Advice: Never use negative words like “but” in any of your sentences. This sentence should have been like this: “I am confident about clearing MPSC”.

Sentence#8: “There is too much competition for MPSC/UPSC but let’s try.”

Analysis: The entire sentence itself conveys that he/she has already accepted the failure.

Advice: Never use negative words like “but” and “try” in any of your sentences. This sentence should have been like this: “Even if there is too much competition for MPSC/UPSC, am going to clear it in this attempt itself”.

Sentence#9: “I will do better this time but its about luck after all.”

Analysis: The last part of the above sentence itself conveys that he/she has partially accepted the failure by believing in luck.

Advice: Never use negative words like “but” in any of your sentences. This sentence should have been like this: “I will do better this time and will come out successfully”.

Dear friends, all you need to do is remember your goal of achieving success in MPSC/UPSC exam(s). You should always think positive while preparing for the exam (at the time of your study). Be happy during the study.  Feel happiness at all times.

By all means, you should convert the negativity into positive feelings. This will definitely help in memory retention and increasing your confidence.

With Gratitude,
Your friend and guide,
Anil Dabhade
Director
AD’s IAS Academy Nashik
17th Sep 2018

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